The situation: you care for someone and know they are about to make (what could be) a tragic decision, one that could change their life forever.
Would you tell them they were about to make a huge mistake, even though it was going to make them upset with you? Is it worth risking a relationship to stop a likely mistake?
If your friend was drunk and about to drive, would you take the keys?
Or would you not say anything at all and just "hope" that it all turned out alright?
Just what is the role of one with more life experience when dealing with the younger and less experienced? Should any knowledge transfer be attempted by the older one?
I haven't thought so much about marriage in several years. It has been interesting to do a little research and talk with others about decisions, theories, and life-experiences. I found this website today, and really enjoyed exploring it.
Having said my piece about the issue at hand, I'll begin backing away from being so upfront about my opinions for the time being. For now, I felt it important to make a statement and start a discussion based on some facts and figures. The opportunity to influence the lives of those I love is a gift, one that I cherish.
Realize that I risk something when I state beliefs that might challenge or offend you. Understand that I seek not to harm but to protect; I would rather guide from the beginning rather than console after a tragedy.